Everyone Needs Support and Gratitude

This is the ninth post in the 15-Day Blog Writing Challenge.

Sometimes it feels like we are living in a vacuum where no one notices who we are or what we are capable of accomplishing. Everyone has talents and abilities. Everyone is amazing in their own way, but not everyone receives recognition, appreciation or support.

It infuriates me how much attention and praise is given to celebrities for simply being famous. They go to the grocery store and magazines feature them in a “they’re just like us” column. Seriously? So let me get this straight.. going to the store to buy milk and tampons while the nanny watches the kids is worthy of being photographed and written about? How about the single mother who has to shop with all her children in tow and barely has enough money to put food on the table, yet somehow she manages to provide for her family week in and week out. Where is the column devoted to that?

What about the parents raising children with extra needs? Where is their annual chance at attending a red carpet event with designer gowns, studded jewels and gold-plated trophies?

Where are the accolades and praise for the family who is on the verge of losing their home, but hang on thanks to the sweat and tears of both parents holding down multiple jobs?

These are the real heroes. These are the real celebrities who deserve our gratitude and our recognition. These are the people who need support. Yet too often we are so wrapped up in our own hardships and fears that we don’t notice anyone else. We don’t realize that offering our gratitude and support to others is the key to fulfilling our own dreams.

Last weekend I attended a women’s only collaborative meeting organized by Femworking, a local networking group for female bloggers and businesses. It is incredible what happens when you sit eight women around a table and ask them to offer praise, recognition, and support to each other in the name of helping each other grow personally and professionally.

My experience with these women solidified what I have always known in my heart – that regardless if you work outside the home, work from home, stay home with your children, own a business, dream of starting a business or have multiple jobs everyone wants and needs to feel gratitude. Everyone wants to be told their dreams are important. Everyone wants a comforting hand on the shoulder. Everyone wants to be encouraged. Everyone needs support.

I loved collaborating with these women and hearing about their dreams, frustrations, fears, and what they needed in order to be supported. That is right, we all went around the table and actually asked for what we needed and wanted from each other. Too often, asking for help is seen as a weakness. Our pride gets in the way and we suffer quietly or doom ourselves to failure. This is true not only in business, but in our personal lives as well.

The thing is we are not living in a vacuum. We do not have to struggle in silence. It is not a weakness to admit that we don’t know what we are doing or that we are scared or that we have unfulfilled dreams or that something is harder than we imagined. It is not a weakness to ask for help. Sometimes in order to reach our goals we have to take that first scary step.

Here is an idea, ask someone you see struggling out for a cup of coffee. Offer your gratitude and your support to that person and you will be amazed by what you will receive in return. You will be surprised to learn that we can all help each other. That everyone has a value to offer. You will realize that what you heard whispered deep within your soul will come to the surface. You will realize that the support and gratitude you seek is within reach, even if you are never featured in a magazine simply for buying a loaf of bread.

If you have a blog and would like to join the 15-day blog challenge, please do so using the link-up below. There are no rules. There are no pre-determined topics. If you can find the time to comment and visit everyone else to show support that would be amazing, but there are no requirements. Just write and be you for 15 Days in June.

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About 

Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2006 started a child care business. In 2012, she launched Tiny Steps Mommy, a lifestyle and parenting blog that quickly gained a following and connected her to an expansive group of women-owned businesses. In 2013, she started a digital marketing consulting business that focused on growing community in an authentic way. Through those connections she was inspired to open Play, Work or Dash, a coworking space that also offers onsite childcare up to three hours per day. It is where like-minded professionals pursue their business goals with the extra level of support parents desire; a place where you "bring your kids to work." She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community. She has been published on The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode and Pop Sugar.

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  1. What a great message! Before starting my business, and blogging, I was never into networking. I did not feel comfortable meeting strangers and asking them to help me. I also loved the vibe and environment of the Femworking group and I am understanding more and more how we need each other to be successful–and there is nothing wrong or negative about that. I also understand and better appreciate the value of collaborating with like-minded individuals. You gain so much from partnering with people who have similar goals and aspirations; there’s nothing else like it.

  2. Love this post — and so happy you joined us on Saturday! 🙂 So many of us who are building are own businesses are doing that exactly because we are the independent type. We need to learn to ask for help.

  3. *our — oops

  4. Simple message with profound impact. Asking for help surely is not a sign of weakness, though it feels like that sometimes. You are absolutely right – everyone needs support. Thanks for being a part of our support and encouragement network!

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