Choose to Remember Amazing over Absurd

I am re-sharing this piece I wrote in September as my 14th post in the 15-Day Blog Writing Challenge. Parenting is difficult and sometimes seemingly impossible. What gets me through each day is deciding that I will only focus on the good moments and let the bad ones slide off my back. Maybe this is the key to survival – selective memory.

A three-year-old dangles off the backyard fort screaming. A 17-month-old with a newfound fetish for biting claims a victim – another toddler who hasn’t figured out that intentionally placing her fingers in the mouth of my biter is a bad idea. An infant refuses to be put down and is screaming loudly. This is how my day ended today. Chaos. Tears. Adrenaline.

Yes, this is my life at times. No, I’m not a masochist. I’m just one of those people who long ago learned that life is messy, sometimes stressful, and loud. Very loud.

I would complain, but I don’t think I can. You see, I can’t count this as a bad day. What may seem overwhelming and unthinkable to some people is just another ordinary day for me.

Does this mean I didn’t dash to catch the dangling three-year-old with a fast-beating heart? No. Does this mean I was less mortified and saddened by the biting incident (especially since it was my daughter doing the biting)? Not at all. I am not desensitized. I have just accepted and embraced my world.

I have also learned to put everything into perspective.

There are good and bad moments within every day (and not just for child care providers). If I were to look at one snapshot of the chaos and declare today to be a bad day, then frankly every day would be terrible. Instead, I choose to pay attention to the amazing moments.

A quote by Maurice Setter

For instance, earlier in the day I was surrounded by six children ranging in age from two- to four-years-old who were fascinated by the images and videos I shared on my tablet of streams, rivers, lakes, and oceans. We talked at length about the beauty of the water and land on our earth. They were engaged and asking great questions. Then we sat around the table and created awesome pictures of trees, a stream, and rocks.

No one cried. No one took a bite out of another child. Everyone smiled. Including me.

How do you think I choose to remember today? By the final few minutes of insanity or the hour-long educational experience I shared with my preschoolers? For me, it is simple. Once the last child leaves I brush the day off and I CHOOSE to remember the amazing moments. I shake my head and laugh about the absurdity at the end.

It is always a choice. Sometimes people forget this fact. Maybe this is what differentiates us all.

How do you choose to remember today? How about yesterday or last week? How about last month or all of last year? How do you want to remember your lifetime?

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Photo Credit: Choose Joy Citizen Girl

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Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2006 started a child care business. In 2012, she launched Tiny Steps Mommy, a lifestyle and parenting blog that quickly gained a following and connected her to an expansive group of women-owned businesses. In 2013, she started a digital marketing consulting business that focused on growing community in an authentic way. Through those connections she was inspired to open Play, Work or Dash, a coworking space that also offers onsite childcare up to three hours per day. It is where like-minded professionals pursue their business goals with the extra level of support parents desire; a place where you "bring your kids to work." She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community. She has been published on The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode and Pop Sugar.




  1. We all make choices. I actually just wrote about basically the same thing.

  2. I love that you’re a proponent of the ‘take charge of your attitude’ school of thought. You’re right in that we have control in this (and other) matters. I’m trying to do a similar thing with a weekend blog hop I’ve got going – Ten Things of Thankful I believe that in every day, there will be at least ten things we can find to be glad about, and that by exercising the ‘muscle’ that finds them, we can enrich our experience of life.


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