Blogging With My Authentic Voice

Yesterday, I ran into an old acquaintance and we began chatting about what we are doing and I mentioned that I have been writing. She wanted to know what I write and I said, “I have a blog.” She politely smiled and gave me a “how nice” response. It wasn’t quite condescending, but I could tell that I might as well have said, “I write in my pretty little diary like a 13-year-old from the 1980s.”

The truth is almost anyone can become a blogger. All you have to do is open up a free account somewhere and start writing. Now, this doesn’t mean you will be a good blogger. This doesn’t mean you will have a following. This doesn’t mean you will make money. For some people, a blog really is an electronic diary or a way to connect with close family and friends. And this is okay. Blogging can mean different things for different people.

For me though, blogging is a creative outlet. It is a platform to improve my writing. I am proud of Tiny Steps Mommy. I know how hard I have worked to grow it. I know how many hours I have poured into my blog without an expectation of being paid or being read. I don’t blog for attention or for praise. I blog because it is how I connect to my authentic voice. Over time it has also become a way to connect with others.

There are so many different types of bloggers out there. Some purely do giveaways for cash, others are local resource bloggers who share useful tips on things to do in the area. There are also business bloggers who use blogging as a way to grow brand loyalty and improve search engine rankings. There are even bloggers who simply cut and paste press releases in order to get free tickets to events or to make nice with brands to bring in some extra cash.

While I respect all types of bloggers, I don’t consider myself any of those. I blog when I am moved. I blog when I am inspired. I blog when I want to share something I actually like or believe in. I have done giveaways and I have been paid to promote an event or product, but I am selective. I will not compromise my writing for a quick $50. My blog is my brand and I want to be trusted. I want my writing to stand for itself.

I may not be the funniest blogger on the street. I may not be edgy or provocative. I may not be cool or snarky. I may not be the go-to place to find out about trends or fashion. I may not be controversial or argumentative or political. I may not be leading a movement. But, I am always true to my authentic voice.


This is the biggest lesson I have learned about blogging. This is what I want to share with other up and coming bloggers.

Don’t ever try to be like someone else. Do not compromise your standards for a quick buck. Do not be ashamed to be different or less provocative or maybe more provocative. It doesn’t matter as long as you are being you.

Ultimately, this is what will shine through. This is what people will notice. As I’ve written about before, I am co-organizing the first-ever Femworking Blogger and Small Business Conference on October 26. I am also speaking on the blogger panel, which is terrifying since I am not the most experienced speaker and I do get nervous. But, I am thrilled to speak because I will get the opportunity to share what I’ve learned.

I want anyone with aspirations of being a blogger to simply be him or herself. If you are a poser, people will see through it. I may not have the biggest numbers, but I do have loyal and supportive readers who get me. This is all I could ask for. In fact, it is more than I ever expected. This is a gift.

Yes, I see each and every reader as a gift. Because I am a writer who found her voice through her blog. I owe so much to Tiny Steps Mommy. I want to give back and help others find their voice. I want to read your heart on the screen. I want to encourage anyone with this dream to just go for it. It’s not about making a quick dollar or becoming famous. It’s about being authentically you.

Have you found your authentic voice yet? How do you express yourself creatively?

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Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2006 started a child care business. In 2012, she launched Tiny Steps Mommy, a lifestyle and parenting blog that quickly gained a following and connected her to an expansive group of women-owned businesses. In 2013, she started a digital marketing consulting business that focused on growing community in an authentic way. Through those connections she was inspired to open Play, Work or Dash, a coworking space that also offers onsite childcare up to three hours per day. It is where like-minded professionals pursue their business goals with the extra level of support parents desire; a place where you "bring your kids to work." She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community. She has been published on The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode and Pop Sugar.




  1. I am a brand new blogger. I really don’t have any idea what I am doing yet. My blog and Facebook header are terrible. Lol. Someday I will have $$ to hire someone to create a nice one for me like I did on my other business page. I am not cool or edgy or snarky either. Never was. I hope I am coming through as my genuine self. I don’t know how to be anyone else. I appreciate this post. Thank you for your encouragement.

  2. It doesn’t pay to be anyone other than yourself. While I knew this before I started blogging in 2008, the past two years have shown in more so, as I’ve gotten a larger following and continue to remind myself that ultimately, I write for me. Ain’t no reason to lie to mahself.
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