My Letter to Oprah

1 Oprah's Life You Want Weekend
After experiencing an amazing weekend at Oprah’s The Life You Want event in Washington, D.C., I felt compelled to write a letter to Oprah about what I felt was missing from the line-up of speakers. So, I did and then I put it aside and instead wrote a recap of the weekend for my blog. But, the letter was calling to me, so I decided to submit it to the Huffington Post instead of putting up on Tiny Steps Mommy. Well, they published it and I have to admit that I started to regret sharing it publicly because I love Oprah and I didn’t want anyone to think otherwise. I went back and forth as to whether or not I should even share it with anyone. Ultimately, I decided that this letter is written from my heart and I should embrace my truth. Please read my Open Letter to Oprah on the Huffington Post and leave a comment (or even share it) if you can. I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject. Thanks for the support!
Here is an excerpt from the letter:

This weekend, I saw a glimpse of my road. I finally realize what every choice and experience in my life has been about. I am supposed to help mothers like me understand that motherhood IS a transformative journey that can help us become who we are meant to be. Having children is not a cumbrance to this process. Motherhood is not the job you have to wade through in order to embark on the discovery of your glory. Motherhood is not the time you simply spend tucking your dreams into a coffee can in the back of your closet.

Motherhood IS the gift that can be the pathway to your true self.

I do not mean to imply that motherhood is a requirement for enlightenment any more than you or Elizabeth Gilbert (one of my personal heroes) mean to imply that your journeys of enlightenment were only possible by not having children. Women have many choices and having children is not the only reason for our existence. I respect this and will always fight for the right for women to have complete authority over their own bodies and lives.

For those of us, however, who make the choice to have children — or find ourselves about to bring a child into the world unexpectedly as I did at 21 years old — I have a message. A message I unfortunately did not hear from any of your speakers. A message that should be shouted and repeated over and over again to all mothers who are elbow deep in the arduous and sometimes muddied task of mothering. The message is this:

Motherhood is not a final destination, but is instead intrinsic to YOUR journey toward self-discovery, humility, creativity, self-awareness and enlightenment.



Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2006 started a child care business. In 2012, she launched Tiny Steps Mommy, a lifestyle and parenting blog that quickly gained a following and connected her to an expansive group of women-owned businesses. In 2013, she started a digital marketing consulting business that focused on growing community in an authentic way. Through those connections she was inspired to open Play, Work or Dash, a coworking space that also offers onsite childcare up to three hours per day. It is where like-minded professionals pursue their business goals with the extra level of support parents desire; a place where you "bring your kids to work." She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community. She has been published on The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode and Pop Sugar.