Change Starts Within Our Heart

Change has to start within our heartOn Monday, I declared 2015 the year of change. It’s what I wish for all of us. The ability to not only dream or want, but to take action and reach our goals – from the small and seemingly trivial to the large and boundless.

But, change — all change — has to start within our heart and not within our mind. We have to want change. We have to need change. We have to love ourselves enough and at the same time be forgiving and patient enough because real change does not happen overnight — or even in a year.

Change that starts from the heart is more like evolution. It can be imperceptible at first. It starts like a whisper only you can hear. The beauty is that no one has to know it is happening. It can be your secret until you are ready to share.

I am screaming about my changes and goals because other than my need for accountability, I want others to know that it’s okay to desire something different. It’s okay not to settle for what has always been. It’s not selfish to want to take care of yourself or finish your book or reach some tangible short and long-term goals.

The truth is I have been changing for years now. My metamorphous of the soul started the day I began I gave in to my heart even though my mind kept saying it was a dumb dream. Who was I to believe that anyone would ever read what I wrote?

I am so glad I didn’t listen to reason. I am so glad I loved myself enough to try. I want to be more vulnerable and share more because I am learning that this is how I can continue to evolve. This is how I can reach my truth.

I want to be honest and say… I’m unhappy with a few things in my life. This doesn’t mean I am ungrateful or sad. I am just not completely satisfied and I’m ready to start evolving. I am ready to take the slow road. I am not looking for perfection, but instead to answer the whisper that speaks to me in the quiet moments. The one that tells me I can do this thing if I try.

And even though my mind is telling me to shut up, my heart is telling me it’s time. What is your heart telling you? Are you listening?





Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2006 started a child care business. In 2012, she launched Tiny Steps Mommy, a lifestyle and parenting blog that quickly gained a following and connected her to an expansive group of women-owned businesses. In 2013, she started a digital marketing consulting business that focused on growing community in an authentic way. Through those connections she was inspired to open Play, Work or Dash, a coworking space that also offers onsite childcare up to three hours per day. It is where like-minded professionals pursue their business goals with the extra level of support parents desire; a place where you "bring your kids to work." She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community. She has been published on The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode and Pop Sugar.




  1. I think it’s always good to reflect on things/situations around us and pinpoint things that may need to be changed. When we settle and cease to wish for some sort of improvement, it’s usually not a good thing. I wish you success in 2015!

  2. Love <3. I think it's important to be honest with yourself about where you're unhappy… so that you can figure out what you want to change and then create your goals and action plan to get there.
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    • Absolutely! We have to take time to be completely and gut wrenchingly honest with ourselves. It’s easy to pretend that we don’t care about something just to avoid dealing with the time and effort it may take to make the change. I am trying to start small and go from there.
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  3. We all have things we’re unhappy with about ourselves, that’s part of what makes us human. If it weren’t for that, we’d never strive to be better!
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  4. I love the way you describe how change evolves within us… and I agree we truly have to have the desire in our hearts before we can call ourselves to action. I’m so glad you took those steps onto this blog, and that your bound heart slowly opened to a boundless forum for you to soar!!

    I keep thinking after reading your post, you leave us curious as to what you are not happy with in your life that you want to change? I wonder if you will write about it…

    Hmm… 🙂
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    • Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I will write about it soon… I think. It’s a process to first admit that I’m unhappy and then be bold and brave enough to give it a name. For the most part, I am exceedingly happy with my life. I am especially happy with the people in my life. I just know that it’s time to be honest and this is the first step in making any changes.
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  5. It’s good to be open to change. So many people are afraid of it but it’s how we grow.
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  6. I try to focus on a few things I want to do better, but if I fail it is not the end of the world.
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  7. Eliz Frank says:

    I agree that change begins in the heart; we get a prompting to move in a new direction and it behooves us to listen.

  8. Love this! Change is so hard, but I’m trying to make some changes this year, too. I agree that change begins from within ourselves. Hoping your changes turn out like you are hoping!
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