Perspective – The Best Mother’s Day Gift

It is not often that I am stunned silent. But this is what happened after my nine-year-old son looked into my eyes and awed me with his response to the news that I would not be moving my home-based daycare to a new location like we previously thought.

I expected him to be upset because the kids were looking forward to reclaiming our basement. I was worried that I had disappointed him.

Instead he said, “Really? But you worked so hard.”

Just a few words, but a response that left me speechless. I gazed into his eyes and realized how much he has grown. He isn’t a baby anymore. He notices so much and feels even more.

I stammered, “Thank you for saying that. Yes, I worked hard, but it doesn’t mean it won’t happen one day. I’m sorry it isn’t happening sooner. And thank you for saying that. I love you.”

He looked at me incredulously. He didn’t understand why I thanked him. He didn’t understand how much his acknowledgement of my hard work meant to me. He didn’t understand the impact of putting aside his own feelings and concentrating on mine. He didn’t know how deeply I needed this moment of compassion.

It was a gift and a reminder of how truly blessed I am to be a mother. How blessed I am to have four amazing children – each with special gifts.

But, today, it was the attention seeking / sometimes clown who took my breath away. His gift has always been his ability to feel. Sometimes his emotions get him trouble – because he is still learning to harness this super power. But, it IS just that — a super power with the ability to stop me in my tracks. A super power with the ability to heal. A super power rooted in love and empathy.

Sometimes it only takes a few words to snap you back into reality. I haven’t lost anything with this recent set-back. Instead, I am overflowing with more. More love, more light, and most importantly – more perspective.

Sometimes the best Mother’s Day gift is the one of perspective.

Best Mother's Day Gift


Nicole Dash is a writer, blogger and business owner who lives in the suburbs outside Washington, DC with her husband and four children. She started her career as a journalist and copy editor. She also managed public relations and corporate communications for a national franchise company, but in 2009 started a home-based daycare. Nicole has enjoyed success as a small business owner and is a leader within the child care community in Northern Virginia. In 2012, she began her heartfelt blog, Tiny Steps Mommy, where she writes about family, life, parenting and finding herself amid the chaos. She is an active member of the Washington, DC blogger community and is listed on the blogroll of more than 20 local blogs. Nicole is also a Huffington Post Blog Contributor and writes for The DC Moms. She is extremely social and loves connecting on Facebook and Twitter.




  1. His response speaks volumes about you as a person & Mother, and the wonderful example you are living for him. Children listen to & learn so much more from what we do than what we say. You should be proud of the hard work you’ve put in to help create a young man with a quality that so few seem to possess nowadays: UNSELFISH COMPASSION.
    Keep up the good work Mommie!

  2. That was a beautiful gift, indeed! What a sweet boy.
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  3. What a sweet moment! That’s a true testament to the example you’ve set for him. Empathy is a hard concept for kids to understand and give.
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  4. Aw! What a sweet sweet boy – his support and acknowledgment is such a gift! Great job, mama. And I know I said before that I’m sorry things didn’t work out the way that you planned but I know that they will work out for you!
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  5. I think one of the best gifts motherhood has given me in general is perspective on SO many things! What a sweet boy you have. :)
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  6. So sweet! What an amazing boy.
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  7. Don’t you just love those moments that set it all in place… that perspective you talk about. Oh, how I love this!!
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