It is not often that I am stunned silent. But this is what happened after my nine-year-old son looked into my eyes and awed me with his response to the news that I would not be moving my home-based daycare to a new location like we previously thought.
I expected him to be upset because the kids were looking forward to reclaiming our basement. I was worried that I had disappointed him.
Instead he said, “Really? But you worked so hard.”
Just a few words, but a response that left me speechless. I gazed into his eyes and realized how much he has grown. He isn’t a baby anymore. He notices so much and feels even more.
I stammered, “Thank you for saying that. Yes, I worked hard, but it doesn’t mean it won’t happen one day. I’m sorry it isn’t happening sooner. And thank you for saying that. I love you.”
He looked at me incredulously. He didn’t understand why I thanked him. He didn’t understand how much his acknowledgement of my hard work meant to me. He didn’t understand the impact of putting aside his own feelings and concentrating on mine. He didn’t know how deeply I needed this moment of compassion.
It was a gift and a reminder of how truly blessed I am to be a mother. How blessed I am to have four amazing children – each with special gifts.
But, today, it was the attention seeking / sometimes clown who took my breath away. His gift has always been his ability to feel. Sometimes his emotions get him trouble – because he is still learning to harness this super power. But, it IS just that — a super power with the ability to stop me in my tracks. A super power with the ability to heal. A super power rooted in love and empathy.
Sometimes it only takes a few words to snap you back into reality. I haven’t lost anything with this recent set-back. Instead, I am overflowing with more. More love, more light, and most importantly – more perspective.
Sometimes the best Mother’s Day gift is the one of perspective.