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Some Pregnant Women Still Can’t Ask Their Boss for Water

During my last two pregnancies I was extremely fortunate to be my own boss. You may think this means I didn’t need to work at full capacity, but it is actually the opposite. I run a home-based daycare which is open 52.5 hours a week, so I work a minimum of 60 hours-a-week if you count set-up and clean-up time (not to mention the hours I spend shopping for supplies, food, etc. on the weekends).

Being pregnant was not an excuse to work less or be less dedicated. (Nor is it for most women I know.) I did my job well throughout my pregnancies. But, as my own boss, I was forgiving and patient. I allowed myself to sit as often as possible. I allowed myself to take extra breaks to eat and drink. I took advantage of naptime and rested. I was kind to myself in order to maintain my level of productivity. I knew that treating my pregnant self with understanding would sustain my commitment level, keep my baby healthy, and keep me going to the very end. (I kept my business open and running until I gave birth both times.)

I knew through experience that pregnancy, while not a disability, does sometimes require simple accommodations for a short period of time. It is not a weakness, but a fact of life.

The commonsense modifications I allowed myself were designed to give me the strength to work to the very end of my pregnancy. These are the same accommodations I allowed my assistant when she was pregnant. When a person is treated with fairness and sensitivity, the returns are immeasurable. Unfortunately, not every company or boss is as well versed in the needs of pregnant women.

I am always astounded when fairness and commonsense have to be legislated. Yet, so much of what I believe to be simple forms of “decency” and “humanity” requires the enforcement of our government. My question is why?

Why does a company need to be told that they cannot deny pregnant employees water or a stool to sit on in order to accommodate specific needs during pregnancy?

Why does an employer need to be told that they cannot fire a pregnant employee to avoid making any reasonable accommodations?

This should not be a discussion in 2012. Yet, in my e-mail today I was asked to send my representative in Congress a letter in support of The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act. (H.R. 5647). The pre-written letter states:

“I urge you to support pregnant workers, by becoming a co-sponsor of the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, H.R. 5647. The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act would require employers to make the same sorts of reasonable accommodations for pregnancy, childbirth, and related medical conditions that they do for disabilities, ensuring pregnant women can continue to do their jobs and support their families”

Are you kidding me? Why is this even a discussion? If the goal is to reduce the involvement of government in our everyday lives, then why do people refuse to do the right thing by others? If businesses would adopt and enforce internal codes of conduct that place value on integrity and fairness, then legislation wouldn’t be needed. Yet, this is not the world we live in right now.

According to the National Women’s Law Center (NWLC), women are not only being denied simple accommodations during pregnancy, they are being fired for even asking.

Here are two examples as provided by NWLC:

  1. Heather Wiseman was a Wal-Mart sales floor associate. When she became pregnant, she began to suffer from urinary and bladder infections and started carrying a water bottle at work on her doctor’s advice to ensure she stayed hydrated. Because of a rule that only cashiers could have water bottles at work, she was terminated.
  2. Amanda Reeves, a pregnant truck driver, was instructed by her obstetrician not to lift more than 20 pounds and sought light duty work as her usual duties required her to lift up to 75 pounds. Her employer terminated her, as it made such modifications only to those injured on the job.

Too often values are pushed aside when discussing productivity and top line growth. Too often pregnant women are judged or stereotyped by others.

Yes, pregnancy is exhausting. I often found myself collapsing by 7:30 pm each night (and my pregnancies were normal and without complications). Yes, pregnancy is a commitment that affects women physically and emotionally, but this does not mean a pregnant woman is less valuable or unwilling to work. If your employee breaks his/her arm, do you fire them or do you temporarily accommodate their needs until they have healed? It should be the same for pregnant women. It should be done automatically. Unfortunately, it is not being done and women are unfairly losing their jobs and their ability to provide for their family.

Visit the National Women’s Law Center Fact Sheet on The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act to learn more.

Did you need any accommodations during your pregnancy? How did your boss treat you when you were pregnant? Please leave a comment or continue the discussion on the Tiny Steps Mommy Facebook page.

Win Four Tickets to BrickFair LEGO Convention

BrickFair LEGO 2012 Virginia Convention

Courtesy of BrickFair

UPDATE: Congratulations to Huyen – Winner of the tickets! This giveaway is now closed. Thank you for entering!

There are few toys that stand the test of time and appeal to both boys and girls. For nearly 100 years, LEGO has been keeping the creative minds of children (and many grown-ups) active and stimulated.

On August 4th and 5th at the Dulles Expo Center in Chantilly, Va., the BrickFair 2012 Virginia LEGO Fan Convention will occupy 100,000 square feet of space. This event is for LEGO lovers of all ages. There will be hands-on activities for children and opportunities to win LEGO parts.

In honor of one of the favorite corners in my daycare, I am offering the easiest giveaway ever. If you would like to win four FREE tickets to BrickFair 2012 Virginia, simply:

  1. Write in the comments section below this post the phrase: “I want to win BrickFair tickets” AND
  2. Like my Tiny Steps Mommy Facebook page

It is that easy. I will randomly draw the name of the winner on Friday, July 20th. And make my announcement on Facebook.

Visit http://www.brickfair.com/ to read more about the BrickFair Virginia LEGO Fan Convention.

Finding the Community I Never Knew I Wanted

I started Tiny Steps Mommy alone in front of my computer, but I discovered that no one can do anything alone and be successful. We all need support. We all need a community. And I am so thrilled to be part of a community of local women who understand, guide, and teach me everyday.

I was always a joiner. In high school, I was an over-joiner. I participated in everything from cheerleading and drama to student government and clubs like Students Against Drunk Driving (SADD). In college, I was editor of the student newspaper and I even briefly joined a sorority.

Interestingly, once I finished college and became a Mom, I didn’t think about joining anything. I was always too busy managing my day-to-day life. I occasionally volunteer as team mom for my son’s sports teams and I sometimes volunteer in the classroom, but I never participate in my community association and I am basically just a dues paying member of our PTA. I didn’t think I needed or wanted a community outside of my family and small group of friends.

I realize how wrong I was. It is something I was missing and I didn’t know it. Thanks to some amazing local moms with a shared entrepreneurial spirit, I have discovered a new community. These women, many of whom I met online, are extremely supportive and generous. They understand what it is like to be a mother, but to need an outlet. They understand how to offer advice and share everything they have learned in order to help the newer members of this “club.” They are quick to offer kind words and tell you that “Moms Rock.” They give you the encouragement to keep going or in my case, keep writing.

A human being is a part of the whole, called by us, “Universe,” a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. Nobody is able to achieve this completely, but the striving for such achievement is in itself a part of the liberation and a foundation for inner security. - Albert Einstein

If you are feeling like an island onto yourself, then open yourself up to new possibilities. Trust that little voice in your head and take a chance. You may be surprised to learn that what you never knew you wanted is waiting right around the corner.

Please checkout my list of local Mom-Owned Blogs/Businesses on the Links page on Tiny Steps Mommy and please visit the growing list of amazing moms in my community. You know who you are and I am grateful for finding the community I never knew I wanted or needed!

Do you belong to a community? Please share your experiences? If you are thinking of starting a blog or a local mom-owned business and you need support, I want to give back. Please e-mail me at nicoledash@gmail.com or reach out to me on the Tiny Steps Mommy Facebook page.