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Put On Your Swimsuit This Summer- #MySwimSuitStyle

I love summertime. I love the beach. I love the pool. What I don't love -- actually what I have come to loathe --  is wearing a bathing suit. And I'm not talking about a bikini or even a tankini (which I gave up in my early 20s), just a regular full-coverage swimsuit (sometimes with a skirt or pair of shorts). This is why it is ridiculously hilarious that I agreed to write this blog post and share a photo of me in my swimsuit. But, I suppose I can blame María José Ovalle of Very Busy Mamá for this one. She challenged me to put on my swimsuit, take a photo and write a post to promote self LOVE, not self loathing. Actually, she personally emailed me and asked. And if you know her, she is not someone to say no to -- especially when you realize how brave and passionate she is about promoting self love. I am at my largest non-pregnant weight right now. I have cellulite, stretch marks, lots of curves, and many imperfections. I could list off a lot of things that I would "fix." But, I am me and this HAS to be enough. Being me is not so terrible. In fact, being me IS BEAUTIFUL because beauty is not about the exterior. This doesn't mean I'm not trying to get to a healthier version of me, but it means I have to accept where I am at this moment. I have to embrace myself. And apparently, I'm supposed to share a photo of me to do it. So, please don't make me do this alone. Help spread this message of self love. Put on your swimsuit this summer. Take off your cover-up. And embrace where you are right now. Time passes too quickly to wait until you feel ready. Children grow too fast to worry about how you look while your kids are begging you to join them in the pool or in the sand. And if you are feeling extra bold, please share a photo of yourself on social media and use the hashtag #MySwimSuitStyle.   P.S. - This is the most terrifying post and photo I have ever shared. Vanity is one of those really tricky things. I believe in self love and in this message, but it … [Read More...]

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