I have stooped to a new low. I am begging for votes like some American Idol wannabe singer on TV. I never thought this would be me, but here I am writing a blog post, putting status updates on Facebook and tweeting “Vote For Me” a couple of times a day. So, why am I doing this? Because my blog is in the running for a Circle of Moms Top 25 Family Blogs by Moms contest. I am not sure how it happened, but according to an e-mail I received yesterday a fan nominated me. Whoever you are, thank you… I think.
I look at the competition and I feel grateful, but a little out of my league. My mission now is not to win (because that seems a little out of the realm of possibility for a small little blogger like me), but not to make a fool of myself. So, please click on the link below and vote for me. Please. Oh and if you can
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Thank you so much for not thinking less of my
Every once in a while, when you least expect it, you are reminded why being a mother is a gift (aka doesn’t suck).
I was rubbing my neck trying to steal a few minutes at the computer after a very long day of sitting outside on a freezing windy field to watch my oldest son play in a lacrosse tournament. I left the house at 7:15 am and returned at 5:30 pm to little ones that demanded my attention. I was drained, cranky, and frustrated because I still had a lot of chores to do and it was Sunday night.
My five-year-old daughter was quietly coloring, while I checked my Facebook account when she said, “It takes a lot of energy to be an author Mommy.” This took me off guard and of course got my attention. I looked at her and said, “You are right it does take a lot of energy. Do you know I have always wanted to be an author? In fact, I write stories all the time.” Her eyes lit up and I felt like she was seeing me for the first time. She jumped out of her chair and said, “I want to tell a story.”
So, I pulled up Microsoft Word and she dictated a story without a pause. I just typed her words. This is her unedited story:
The Princess and the Evil Guys
Once there was a princess. And she had a prince. She loved to play out in the park, but suddenly she heard a big bad wolf. Who was saying rah rah rah. She was on the swings when she heard all the noises. And then the Prince was gone. And then the dragon came. He was not a nice one because he sprayed fire. The wolf and the dragon made friends. The princess was going to run away but the big bad wolf stopped her with the dragon. Then the prince who was underground saw the princess’s footsteps and saw that the wolf and dragon were getting so close. Then the prince came back and killed the dragon and the wolf with two sharp knives in their hearts and then they were dead. And then the princess said to the wolf and the dragon “I hope you never come back mister.” The prince and the princess decided to go home, but realized they were lost in the woods because they got distracted by all the monsters. And then they saw a unicorn. A very good one. The unicorn took them back home to their house. They were so surprised and happy. The End!
Even though her story gets a little violent (what’s with the knives in the heart part all about?). And even though I secretly wish the princess had come to her own rescue instead of depending on the prince to save her, I was bursting with pride. Not because it is a Pulitzer Prize winning story, but because she was so excited to create a story with me. It’s hard to explain why this touched me so much, but I compare it to a father who loves football and one day unprompted his child tosses him the ball and asks to play.
It was a gift. A sort of payment rendered for putting in so many extra Mommy hours. More importantly, it was a reminder to focus on the small seemingly inconsequential moments. It truly is when the magic happens.
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Q: My 18-month-old really loves his bottle. He drinks out of a sippy cup, but enjoys the comfort of the bottle before bed and when he first wakes up. He doesn’t suck his thumb, have a blankie, or use a pacifier. I hate the idea of forcing him to stop the bottle, but the pediatrician keeps making me feel like I’m doing something wrong. Also, my daycare center is refusing to offer my son a bottle, even though it’s how he falls asleep best. What do you recommend I tell my daycare and when did you stop giving the bottle? – Patricia, Ashburn, Va.
A: All doctors and parenting books offer guidelines about the best time to start your baby on solids, the best time to potty train, the best time to take away the bottle, the pacifier, etc. The important thing to remember is that these are guidelines. No two children are the same, so it’s impossible to have one set of rules for all children. I always hate when pediatricians make you feel like you are doing something wrong simply for not adhering to their timetable. The thing I always ask myself when confronted with one of these guidelines is why this recommendation is being made. Is it a safety issue? In the case of the bottle, this is a personal choice not an issue of safety. The truth is if you remove the bottle or the pacifier before 16- to 18-months it is much easier than waiting until they are older and more attached. But, just because you still allow your child to have a bottle once or even twice a day does not mean you are doing something wrong. My children all clung to their bottle for comfort until well past 18 months. I didn’t allow them to fall asleep with their bottle or take one to bed, but I did let them have one after dinner and if they were not feeling well. In many cultures, babies are allowed to use a bottle for years. This is not a crime, nor will it stunt your child’s growth. You just have to use commonsense. A child that has a bottle or pacifier hanging from their mouth all day long will take longer to speak. A child that depends on drinking the majority of their calories will be pickier about eating. A child that never learns to fall asleep without a bottle will be harder to put to bed. These are the reasons to transition your child, not because you feel pressure from a your daycare or doctor.
In terms of your daycare, if you adamantly disagree with their guidelines then you always have a choice to make a change. The question is whether this issue is a deal breaker for you or not. Is having your son give up the bottle while at daycare that much of a hardship? If so, is this hardship more about you or your son? I have found that children give up the bottle and pacifier much easier in my daycare. Parents are often surprised to see how easily their children let go of these things with me. Sometimes this is the incentive they need to also make the change at home. You will find that as parents we cling to these sources of comfort as much as our children (perhaps to extend their babyhood?). You will find if you make a decision to make a change and stick to it, you and your child will get through it just fine. Good luck! #MomtoMom
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